[Sarah&Mark – Chief Coaches]

Someone who can communicate and ask more questions if we don’t understand each other.

Red flag, not being willing to admit they are wrong, not willing to get help if they or we need it.

[Unknown Member]

I agree that communication is a must.

A red flag would be someone who is always making jokes and is sarcastic. I take that as maybe they are hiding something or have some pain that maybe hasn’t healed.

[Sarah&Mark – Chief Coaches]

I agree. If you can’t have a serious conversation then maybe something else is going on.

[David]

I’m never Wr-wr-wr-wr…..Wr-wr-wr-wr….Mistaken!!! Communication is key. To sit like rational adults and discuss a matter.

[Sarah&Mark – Chief Coaches]

I agree. People have to sit and have a conversation

[Unknown Member]

I have watched some talks about this and it is good when you can be calm and if you not sure then to say: Did you mean to say this? So often we hear tone, or are deceived by our perceptions, so good if a comment throws you to ask before you assume the worse.

[Sarah&Mark – Chief Coaches]

That is so good. I like that you ask a clarifying question. If we think something sounds off or not right it is better to ask for clarity.

[Kitty]

Hmmm…great question!
Strength: able to both actively listen AND ask questions. It is frustrating trying to connect with someone who will answer a question about themselves but then will not in turn either ask a question or give enough information to be able to respond with another question (red flag). This shows me that communication is not one of their strengths—it takes two to succeed in communicating.

Strength: able to look at multiple sides of a topic and discuss intelligently without being dogmatic(red flag).

Strength: have gone through enough healing of past challenges so they are not on meds for clinical depression(red flag).

These are the ones that come to mind right at the moment.😀

[Misty Dawn]

I am such a conversationalist and over communicator, so I have to agree with the communication comments.

Outside of that, some strengths to me include: optimistic, respectfulness, patience (slow to anger), willing to take initiative, displays integrity, kind, healthy sense of humor.

Red flags would include: secretiveness (not private as I can respet that, but dodging details); someone that makes fun of others; someone that takes no ownership and plays victim all the time; someone that has aggressive/controlling behaviors

[Sarah-Mark]

That is great you have strong communication skills, that will come in handy when difficult discussions need to be talked about.

Your red flags sound very reasonable and even smart.

[Melissa]

Mental strengths-Someone who can create a safe space for communication, is teachable/comfortable being wrong, leads by example, and is slow to anger and quick to mercy.

Red Flags- Not liking animals, children, vulnerable people (elderly/disabled). Acting like they are there to save you/be your hero. Srpersting you from your family/friends. Making your relationship one where you have to pay them back for doing something for you. If they say, “If you loved me you would…..” Not wanting to fellowship with other believers if they are available to you. If you’re a woman, insisting on you not having your own income/car. Constantly testing or dissrespecting you and your boundries. Getting angry or acting jealous if you understand the Word where they don’t. Yelling, using curse words when angry. Playing the victim/blame shifting. There are so many I’ve missed in the past that I make sure to pick up on now.

[Unknown Member]

Strength is having the ability to listen regardless even though you believe that you are right. That person holds his tongue and evaluates their position to see what they believe may be wrong and make the corrections necessary to get back on the Path.
In opposition to this Weakness, those who do not listen despise correction. This position will destroy any relationships.

[Sarah-Mark]

great response.