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  • Questions to ask on a first date

    Posted by HebrewShebrew on January 13, 2021 at 4:24 pm

    What should you try to figure out first? What keeps the conversation flowing? What should be avoided?

    Unknown Member replied 5 months, 1 week ago 6 Members · 9 Replies
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  • Kitty

    March 11, 2021 at 7:50 pm

    Wow, another great topic/question!

    Sharing some common interests, hobbies, background is a first in order to see if there is a willingness and ease in communicating and to break the ice. For me, sharing some of the big areas is important in order to see if there is enough common ground to continue talking/seeing each other. These might include willingness to relocate, what one believes about Shabbat and the Moedim. I might also ask questions about family, first memories, relationship with mom and dad and their last serious relationship in order to gauge if they have healed (if needed) and are emotionally available or if there is still brokenness and wounding they are dealing with.

    What keeps the conversation flowing? asking questions

    What to avoid? Yikes, depends on the person, how open they are, how the conversation is going, how much you have in common. Definitely might avoid talking about finances, sex, politics on the very first time together.

  • Rita

    March 17, 2021 at 1:51 am

    I’m on some non faith based dating sites so I have my Messianic beliefs right on my profile, and I tend to stay away from guys who haven’t indicated any kind of faith. But one guy started chatting with me and his profile said Christian so I thought I could give him a chance. The conversations were great, we talked about covid, politics, family, school, work, etc… But whenever I tried to bring faith into the conversation, he wouldn’t really engage.

    But he asked to meet up for a walk and I figured I should give him a chance to talk about his faith, maybe in person it would be easier than chatting online…

    As I suspected, he doesn’t really have any faith of his own -_-

    All that to say, for me, questions about faith are majorly important and I want to know asap if we’re on the same page there, otherwise it feels like a waste of time.

  • Rita

    March 17, 2021 at 1:53 am

    Also, I agree with Kitty. Asking questions, talking about family, all good things.

    I wouldn’t try too hard to have “rules” about things to avoid… I would just try to keep the conversation flowing and if politics or sex happen to fit naturally, then so be it. It might seem a bit awkward, but you’ve got to talk about it eventually anyway, right?

  • Desiree

    March 17, 2021 at 9:55 pm


    This is a really difficult question for me to answer, believe it or not I have only had 2 first dates and both became relationships. I think that if the conversation flows well then it makes it easier to ask deeper more meaningful questions and get a more in depth understanding of where each other stand as far as their faith, for me this is very important to know right away if we are on the same page, otherwise like Rita it would feel like a waste of time. Kitty makes a lot of really good points and I really like what she said.


    • Sarah-Mark

      March 29, 2021 at 1:05 am

      Check out the Foundation Forum’s. Over the next couple of weeks we will be discussing that very topic you bring up about someone’s spiritual walk. Check out this weeks forum.

  • Unknown Member

    Deleted User
    April 17, 2023 at 11:00 am

    I suppose the question or questions would be concerning is; what do you believe? Who do you say Yeshua is and what impact has He had on your life?

  • Unknown Member

    Deleted User
    April 17, 2023 at 11:07 am

    I suppose the question or questions would be concerning is; what do you believe? Who do you say Yeshua is and what impact has He had on your life? These are very important since two cannot go on a journey unless they agree. (paraphrase) In this era that we are in most people do not take the time to get to know each other before making a commitment, like marriage. People will do all kinds of research on a car they want to buy. So why wouldn’t you ask these questions? Considering that this is the who will be spending a lot of time together. Just a thought.

    • Sarah-Mark

      April 17, 2023 at 6:11 pm

      I agree so much. It is so important to ask some of those foundational questions. Also to know yourself what you believe as well.

      • Unknown Member

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        April 19, 2023 at 2:57 pm


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