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  • Spiritual Foundation

    Posted by Sarah-Mark on March 29, 2021 at 1:12 am


    Some things to think about for yourself and also when you are starting to speak with someone.

    • Do both of you believe that Yeshua is the Messiah?
    • Do both of you try to follow Yeshua and the Scriptures as closely as possible in today’s culture?
    • Do both of you share the same interpretation of the Instructions found in the Scriptures?
    • Are both of you are willing to allow each other room to grow in how you carry out the Instructions found in the Scriptures?

    These are some examples…….. How do you feel about the Spiritual Foundation? Let’s discuss….

    (remember each of us are on the same path but might be on different levels, be kind and treat each other as Yeshua would treat them.)

    Sarah-Mark replied 11 months, 2 weeks ago 8 Members · 12 Replies
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  • Rita

    March 31, 2021 at 1:24 am

    “Do you believe that Yeshua is the Messiah?”

    This, to me, is truly foundational. If the answer is no, we’ve got no business exploring a romantic relationship.

    Other things may be more open to negotiation. Do you turn on the oven on Saturdays? Do you check your clothing labels? Do you keep separate dishes? Those kinds of specifics might be extremely important for some and less so for others, but Yeshua is a biggie!

    One guy told me part of his family was Portuguese catholic, part was Irish Catholic, and there were some Mennonites mixed in.

    … Well, ok, interesting, but where does that leave you? (I literally asked him that) “I lost my faith, but I kind of still like some of the catholic teachings.” Well, sorry, but that does not work for me at all!

    Yeshua Himself is the rock and foundation upon which a lasting relationship should be built. Without that, nothing else matters and it won’t work. At least, I think so. Many people I know don’t agree with that…

    There are obviously other highly important considerations too. I personally think having a teachable spirit to allow for growth together is one of the most beautiful and attractive qualities a person can present. It’s great to be knowledgeable, to have walked for many years, but if you automatically think you’re 100% right 100% of the time, that’ll be an issue.

    Anyway, those are just some initial, late night thoughts.

    • Sarah-Mark

      March 31, 2021 at 2:45 am

      Great answer, I do agree with you about having Yeshua as the foundation. Some of the other things can come later on in the relationship.

    • Desiree

      April 14, 2021 at 10:17 pm

      I really love your response.

  • Unknown Member

    Deleted User
    May 14, 2021 at 1:20 am

    This is very important and can be quite tactfully responsive. When asked who we may be or have been affiliated with, it can be hard for some with similar experience with a group to accept without offending. We in this Hebrew Messianic/Jewish arena can be very peculiar when it comes to what we agree on with different groups/fellowships.

    I am a very easy-going personality, patient and understand everyone has an opinion based on experience, education, etc. In a new relationship, I feel some differences should be contended with until there is a definite mutual disagreement. Communication is the foremost physical aspect of a lasting relationship/marriage.

    Of course, I’m with Rita on the basic belief that our interested party have the same basic foundation we have. Then go from there. We need to remain teachable as well as understanding. Looking forward to some sort of activity on this site. 🙂

  • Andrew

    July 13, 2021 at 7:09 pm

    “Without that, nothing else matters and it won’t work. At least, I think so. Many people I know don’t agree with that…” – Rita

    Doesn’t matter what other people think or agree with. You are on the right track and don’t let any of that other talk deter you. You are absolutely right about that foundation and if we remain on that straight and narrow path we’ll be blessed in the end. When I get lonely I feel weak and tempted to compromise in some areas. Having Yeshua as a foundation however is concrete. I can’t imagine ever wanting to be in a relationship without that. I would have no identity.

    • Sarah-Mark

      July 14, 2021 at 6:12 pm

      Having Yeshua as the foundations is number 1 for sure.

  • Fcapoccia

    April 18, 2022 at 11:30 pm

    Having Yeshua as a foundations is first. Next, it would be important to have some sense of compatibility if one person or both are already in ministry. Since I have had a lot of Yahwehs training by His direction it would be important that the potential mate be in or willing to understand ministry whether teaching or deliverance etc.

    • Sarah-Mark

      April 27, 2022 at 6:41 pm

      I so agree. There has to be compatibility for sure. Also some interests too. You are a great catch Fran.

  • Unknown Member

    Deleted User
    August 21, 2022 at 3:19 pm

    One thing that has come up in my heart is serving. Let’s just say that the basics are there. They are Torah observant, etc.
    Here are a few things to consider:
    Does the potential spouse want to serve in a congregational setting?
    If you take mission trips, will they join you?
    If you visit homeless shelters or have a prison ministry… Will they be with you?
    The list can go on from here depending on your gifting and the heart the Father has put in you to serve.

    We should not take for granted because they love Yeshua; they will want to pick up the torch and join us in activities that we are invested in and follow our heart’s ministry desire. There are a lot of people who are too busy with current responsibilities to join or partner in the same way.

    I desire to find someone who is already serving in a way similar to how I’m serving. That’s another foundational matter for me. Then we can continue serving together as a couple.

    • Sarah-Mark

      August 22, 2022 at 2:15 pm

      So true Paul. It can be a powerful thing when two people serve God together.

  • Melissa

    October 14, 2022 at 12:44 am

    Hi! New here! So what about this situation: you both communicate well, click in every way, both believe Yahshua/Jesus is messiah….but they don’t keep the feasts and sabbath, they keep christmas and easter. Is that a deal breaker?

    • Sarah-Mark

      October 14, 2022 at 1:59 pm

      That is a great question. I would ask why do they keep those holidays instead of Yah’s feasts. Are they open to learning about the feasts.

      Asking lots of questions and figuring out how you feel about it. What does it look like once married with kids of grandkids.

      Great question

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