How well do you know the person you are speaking with?
What do you fear? When you are in the beginning of the relationship you want to find out everything about that person. Their likes, dislikes, their favorite foods, hobbies, interests, even their favorite Scripture or Bible character. It is good to take the time to get to know someone. It’s even better if you are able to see them in different seasons of life. God gave the seasons for a reason.
The only way to really get to know someone is to ask open ended questions. A relationship should be like a ping pong game. One person asks an open ended question and the other person responds with an answer, and then that person asks the next question. Both people should be sharing equal amounts of questions and answers. Red flag! If one person is talking the entire time, and you are not able to get in a word edgewise, that might be something to pay attention to. We all have those one-off situations, but if it happens more often, you might want to talk about that.
Are you a good Listener?
Do they SHEMA (Hear/Listen and Respond Appropriately). How about you? Do you hear well? Are you a good listener? We might think we are good listeners, and a good responder to what people are saying to us, but are we really listening with both ears and not thinking about what we want to say next? Especially when it comes to talking to someone over the phone. Sometimes we could become so distracted with the things around us that we are not even paying attention to what they are saying, and stop being distracted over the phone.
Be honest with yourself and the person you are getting to know. What do you have to fear? You will not get the results you want if you are not honest with each other. You are hurting yourself and the potential person you are interested in. Why would you do that unless you have something to hide? If that is true, you need to work out your own issues and get help to learn to deal with the hurts and pains. We all have them, but we also learn from them and move on. Seek Yah to help you in your hurt.
- How well do you know the person you are speaking with?
- Are you a good listener?
- Do you ask open ended questions?
- Are you honest with yourself about how you communicate?
I challenge you to message someone an open-ended question. What do you have to fear? Our website is the perfect place to practice those skills. You can ask a question to all members by posting in the Relationship Topic Forum area. If you have not joined yet you should at Hebrew Shebrew dating site. Always be ready to give an answer to open-ended questions. Avoid simple, one-word answers unless that is the only option available. Enjoy communicating!